I am absolutely ecstatic about the new site and I’m glad to hear from quite a few of you that you love the new changes as well! GET FIT DIVA is for ALL women on their healthier living journey. On my ABOUT ME page I had my Before picture. Up until VERY recently I considered my Before picture to be a completely unflattering picture of me in 2011 at my highest weight . It was taken at my sister in law’s fortieth birthday party and I remember weighing myself that morning and being so upset. When she uploaded the party pics to Facebook, I quickly untagged myself in EACH and EVERY photo on what was such a happy and momentous day just because I didn’t like the way I looked and didn’t want others to see how I re-gained the weight I lost after the birth of my second son.
Then I read this from Beauty Redefined. It was by far the best article I read about body image, body shaming, and strategies to lead our best, happiest, healthiest lives by dealing with these disruptive moments:
In a world where female appearance is valued above all else, where girls learn from childhood to monitor their appearance at all times, and where public identities are carefully crafted and maintained online at every waking moment, a picture speaks more words than it has at any other point in history. For some, the sight of a photo she deems unattractive is enough to spark thoughts and reactions that are all directly related to one of our favorite (like the bad kind of favorite) subjects: body shame.
I dealt with this moment of body shame and I have moved on. My Before picture does NOT define me. I am not merely an “After” and I am transforming myself physically and mentally daily (maybe hourly!). I am loving every day of my journey even the “bad” days when I eat horribly or a stretch when I’m not as active as I like or when I am having a woe-is-me day.
I am human. I am flawed. I am going to mess up on my healthy living journey. But I am also STRONG and RESILIENT and wasn’t meant to be broken. My journey is not about getting to the “After” but being happy and healthy. I was told by my general practitioner to lose weight and that my blood work indicated high cholesterol. That’s some scary news to be told! I need to be around to see my sons grow up, to spend my golden years with my husband and our family and friends, and to see all my hopes and dreams come to fruition. Today I am at a healthier weight and I have normal cholesterol levels.
You can still search the site and find many posts about my healthier living journey and how I lost forty plus pounds to become healthier. I did this by changing my eating habits, being more active (and leaving an unhealthy sedentary lifestyle) and finding out what makes me happy –which I can determine is copious amounts of Zumba, spin class, and my husband’s version of “spa water”. My journey is not about being skinny, being a certain size, or a even certain weight but having a positive body image and sense of self. To paraphrase Beauty Redefined:
Start that growth process by focusing on self-compassion…using your body as an instrument, and tapping into a spiritual source of power to remind you that you are more than just a body and you are not alone.
I have since replaced the photos on ABOUT ME page with photos of me having fun (with my sons and hubby), being healthy, and of course my Motivation page stays the same. It has my support system of family and friends that have helped me along my journey and why I am dedicated to being healthier and happier.