To say I was ready to drop stress and say goodbye to the cravings, panic, and self-doubt was an understatement. Jessica Ortner’s The Tapping Solution for Weight Loss for Weight Loss and Body Confidence came into my life at an opportune time. I decided to stop living my life by the scale and love myself more. I wanted to find a way to do that without the stresses of dieting and restriction, limiting the negative self-talk, and finally address the deeper facets of my weight and self-worth challenges. Would tapping end the insanity that ruled my weight loss and body confidence journey up to this point?
Ortner’s book is not a weight loss book. It doesn’t have recipes, workouts, or claims that in 14 days you will have flat abs/toned arms/etc. Ortner asserts that losing weight is not the answer to all of your problems (Amen!). The book teaches you the basics of EFT tapping, a stress relief technique (part of an emerging field known as “energy psychology”) that involves tapping on acupressure points to clear stress and limiting emotions and beliefs.
The book is divided into three parts. Part I is the basics of tapping and how to face panic. Part II is looking at the deeper aspects of your weight and body confidence challenges. Part III is creating a more empowering relationship with exercise as well as food and practicing self-care. Before reading the book, I learned more about tapping and did some pre-reading exercises which you can read about here.
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Like most women juggling busy lives and trying to achieve balance (that magical unicorn!), I have many stressors and we all know stress causes weight gain. I enjoyed the tapping meditations. I tap 15 minutes per day (sometimes more, sometimes less) which comes out to less than two hours per week. Ortner gives you sample statements to use for your tapping target. This was extremely helpful and helped me to tailor it into my language (or Aliah-speak) for my own experiences. One of my tapping meditations was “I love and accept myself” which was hard for me. It took me back to a time where I was a women’s retreat a few years ago and we did a mirror exercise where we had to say three positive things about our appearance. And I could not. Other meditations like “Even though I’m feeling overwhelmed, I choose to feel calm and confident” came easier.
I’m not going to front the first time I began the physical process of tapping I felt awkward. Here I was doing a tapping sequence (tapping on various points on my body while speaking through the stress) and thinking what in the world am I doing! However immediately after completing the round and taking a deep breath my stress had decreased. I had a calm within me.
The book has short stories on Ortner’s clients. One that resonated with me was Cindy because basically she was ME. She shared that all too familiar story of facing the panic in the mirror. Like Cindy, I often have panic before family events. I’ve gained and lost weight several times in my 13 year marriage and when I see my in-laws I always felt ashamed that they had witnessed the outward results of a very private struggle. I could have on the most fabulous outfit and all I can think of is if everyone noticing and talking about how fat I was. Now I will do a tapping meditation before these events to help me relax and feel more confident (no matter what the mirror or scale shows) and repeat “You look beautiful!” I won’t give a piece of glass or a scale the power to dictate my happiness.
By reading this book, I was able to look at my relationship with my body, food, exercise, as well as sexual intimacy, pleasure, and perfection. How can you take good care of something you dislike? I had been so focused on my exterior’s “flaws”, I never fully respected or nurtured my body. Don Miguel Ruiz said “Your physical body loves you unconditionally. Even if you judge your body, even if you reject it and don’t like it, your body is completely loyal to you.” It is now time to start being loyal to my body!
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Here are ten key benefits of tapping:
10 Key Benefits of Tapping (So You Can Love Yourself and Your Body)
1. Tapping disrupts fight or flight response allowing your body to return to a more relaxed state. It helps decrease cortisol levels so hormones can support weight loss.
2. Tapping is self-empowering. You can do it for yourself to experience relief and support you in times of stress. You don’t need anyone else’s help!
2. With tapping, exercise becomes a pleasure, not a necessary chore. Find activities that make you happy while becoming more active which promotes weight loss and body confidence.
3. No restriction! With tapping, you take care of yourself. Eat fresh food you love and focus on appreciating the body you have. Choose foods that support health and well being.
4. Learn that “weight loss is a happy side effect of loving yourself more and feeling more powerful in your own body”.
5. Tapping addresses your pattern of panic so you achieve long term body confidence and weight loss. Step into your best self and biggest dreams so you don’t miss out on life!
6. You can change your entire day just by noticing negative thoughts and self-talk. Tapping stops it in its tracks.
7. Tapping clears resistance and fears so you can take care of yourself. Whether you feel you aren’t good at something or feel too embarrassed, tapping clears these fears and the mind naturally finds an empowering belief or idea to replace it with.
8. Tapping can help you overcome emotional eating by getting in tune with what your body needs and wants to feel great and be healthy. Tapping recreates your relationship with food and your body. It makes eating a pleasure-infused experience.
9. You can create new beliefs that feel authentic to who you really are.
10. Tapping doesn’t just work on weight loss but also on headaches, backaches…the benefits are endless.
I hope these tips encourage you to begin or restart tapping and gives you the results (or better) that I have achieved. In the past month, I have lost weight and gained a greater sense of worth and confidence. I also rediscovered pleasure in exercise and took a “break” from running because it didn’t spark joy in my life like other activities. I have taken Zumba, kickboxing, and spinning in the interim and feel fabulous. Taking classes I enjoy helps me to break the cycle between neglect and exercising out of panic.
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My journey is ongoing but I feel more comfortable and beautiful in my body than I have in a loooong time. Using tapping on a regular basis allows me to stay grounded with my body and stay tuned with my mind-body-soul connection. I see how food and movement affects me. I now know I need much more sleep. But most importantly, I’ve let go of resistance. I’m good enough exactly the way I am right now and can stop seeking perfection in all facets in my life (not just weight loss and body confidence). There is no perfection and I will celebrate each and every small step along the way!