To kick off my new Wellness Wednesday series, I wanted to share my recent experience with Laura Bozarth, a Martha Beck Certified Life Coach and the founder of Good Girls Health. I have never had a one-on-one session with a Life Coach so to say I was a little excited is an understatement. Laura guides women in letting go of their inner good girl, so they are able to create better careers, healthier relationships and happier lives. Laura has a B.A. and M.A. in Education. She is also an endorsed Mind Body Coach, and has been featured on psychcentral.com, divinecaroline.com, hercampus.com and yourtango.com.
Working with a life coach has been a dream of mine. I attended retreats and events with large groups of women but never had that intimacy that a private session offers. Life coaches guide you towards your career, relationship, and life goals by helping you recognize your skills and dreams and moving past challenges that stand in your way. Thankfully as the recipient of OWN’s Create Your Space Contest, I received a session with a Wellness AND Life coach, Laura Bozarth, that not only helped me find clarity but also find the motivation and tools to reach my physical and emotional health goals.
Most women have that “good girls” element…I know I do! I have strange rules and goals so I can be that perfect career woman/wife/mother/etc that I thought were helping but were actually holding me back. The emotional and physical impact that the pressure of being perfect and trying to do the right thing was creating stress in my life.
During my session with Laura, I was able to pinpoint exactly what I truly wanted in my life. One of the foci of this blog is achieving balance (that mythical creature!). Laura helped me realize I was doing too much (she referred to me as Wonder Woman more than once) and thus depleting myself of reaching my goals, particularly ones that gave me true joy, on fire. When Laura said “to be of service to yourself so you can be of service to others” it all clicked. I do need to work on breaking away, asking others for help, and ease up on the perfectionist qualities so I can get that spark back.
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“Is there ever a time you ever NOT do anything?” Laura asked frankly during our session.
If someone asks you that and you can’t come up with an answer other than yes than it is time for some changes. Time to stop suffering from “good girl syndrome”! For the past week, I have been making incremental changes in my daily life like setting a timer to break away from my work and away from my constant “doing”. I now recognize what parts need to be removed from my daily life so I can move forward with a sense of freedom. With the advice and gentle nudge from Laura, I am able to dial it down without losing intensity for my passions. I am finding new JOY in my professional and blogging lives while having time for my personal life as well. Did I mention that I feel powerful, healthy, AND sexy?
Laura has set a fire underneath me. She asserted that my incredible drive, passion, and stamina were good things…great things but without an actionable plan and creating breathing room in my life, I would fizzle out again. No more one-woman show! No more thinking I am worthy because I can do this one-woman show day in and day out without asking for much help. With Laura’s suggestions, I have created more freedom in my life and the spark is back! I know I have a ways to go to “re-code” my mind as Laura puts it but I have taken steps for my self-care and to let go of the “good girl”.
Here are three ways a wellness and life coach can help you:
1. A life and wellness coach will help you make better general choices that fit your lifestyle.
2. Life and wellness coaches don’t focus on changing certain behaviors. They develop their clients’ overall strengths and abilities.
3. If you need guidance moving forward in your journey, have a lot of stress or aren’t as healthy as you’d like to be, a wellness and life coach will help define your goals and gain clarity on specifically what you want to achieve and why you want it.
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If you are struggling with people-pleasing, self-sabotage and perfectionism in your journey, it is time to start committing to allow a breakthrough in your confidence, belief, and your abilities. A life coach like Laura Bozarth can help with the proper plan and support. When you know what you want and understand where you’re going you can do anything like help your body heal, build that business, lose weight, and create fulfilling relationships and much more!